Sunday, March 18, 2007

Self Denial, coyotes and dogs !!

“Rehne de mera ye wehem pe hi yakin” – Euphoria

At some point or the other in life, I have seen people indulging in some form of self denial. Something that has intrigued me since long. Hence I thought of venting out my thoughts about this “farce inducer”.
Sometimes it makes me think as to what is it that makes people fall in such a mud bath knowing very well to be a falsity.
There are some major instances of self denials that I have faced in life; hence I draw all my inferences for this penning of mine from those.
When we are kids then we have more on the lines of gaining acceptance from their parents. More or less living in own own fantasia, we as kids, don’t know when these spill over to the real world.
Just to draw an analogy, it has been scientifically proven that dogs do have the same lineage as the coyotes. Both the dog and coyote pups behave in the same manner. The real difference arises when they actually grow up. The dogs are never able to come out of the puppy stage. While the coyotes become killing machines, maybe it is the conditioning that the dogs have to face at the hands of the humans that kept them in the state of self denial and eventually evolving into a new variant of the species.
Here I am taking the “author” liberty to compare the homo-sapiens with their canine counterparts. I am apologetic to any coyotes, if their egos get hurt in any manner.
Is it conditioning for us to be in the same state of self denial that we are subject to as children? Are we never able to get out of the Shangri-la of random thoughts and illusionary cerebrations?
Again drawing from my inferences from my personal life, it is mostly when we are in the phase of love that we undergo this phenomenon. Love in all its totality.
A person may not be the favorite of the parents. Obviously the parents are human beings too and they can take the liberty, maybe implicitly, to go in for favorites amongst their own children. Then the same stage of self denial where in one is reluctant to agree that he/she is not the “apple of the eye” of the parents.
Then obviously, comes the stage of love, as it perceived most commonly by the people. Since the time one sets an eye on someone and his/her heart skips a beat, the person enters into a state of self denial, marked by heightened expectations and mindless fallacies. All in the name of being a romantic.
Humans don’t have the heart to accept the reason of denying self denial, in other words, having the heart to accept the reality. Because that comes with a lot of mortal “hurt”.
Somewhere inside you are aware of the truth and moreover you may think that what you think is actually coming from a logical conclusion drawn keeping to lieu of all your mental faculties, yet I have realized but late, that it is the work of the very psyche of the state of self denial, that makes us think the way we think.
Hard to understand and only fathomable when explored, lets not be conditioned by the hyper state of emotions for that makes us dogs not coyotes J . Not a conclusion, but an advice….

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